Our daughter Ruhiyyih married Matt last Saturday in a beautiful ceremony with family and friends. (More photos by photographer Katherine Hall in her blog Shutterblog.)

My favorite moment of Matt and Ruhiyyih was the kiss, because when he swept her into his arms there was barely a dry eye in the room. An entire community of friends and well-wishers made her wedding so memorable and lovely. ( I'll wait for Ruhiyyih to share the details, when she has time to do so.)

Here my sister is trying to put earrings on me. She said, "You've got wrinkled ole lady ears Bonita, and I can't get it on!" We fussed and struggled, and finally somebody popped them in... little diamond studs that Ruhiyyih wanted me to keep for her. I figured they'd get lost in my pocket, so I wore them.

The first day of their marriage I lighted altar candles as a way of keeping Matt and Ruhiyyih in my prayers. They've been lighted every day as a remembrance.

About 25 of Ruhiyyih's friends and family celebrated a bridal shower for her on Sunday. (photos by Kathy Hall)

Ruhiyyih opened her gifts ~ lots of pretty nighties and other stuff.

Refreshments were served - I made five different varieties of finger sandwiches, and other people brought desserts and drinks.

We played a bingo game and I won a prize! We had to fill in the squares with everything a bride needed for her special day! I managed to fill in lingerie, toiletries, candles and the like for the first row. But, my goodness, I ran out of ideas as I approached the bottom row, so I just wrote down a tent, Coleman lantern, a flint fire-starter, and a compass.

Malloreddus ~ Gnocchi, Sardinian Style

Malloreddus is a wonderful pasta, similar to gnocchi, which is made with potato flour. The traditional recipe calls for regular flour, but I've decided that about half of it should be semolina, which is duram wheat, perfect for pasta.

After the two flours are mixed with salt and an egg I knead the dough until it is elastic. Then I partition it into four or five small loaves depending on how many servings I will make.

Each little loaf is rolled out, then tiny bean-size pieces are chopped off.

The small chunk of pasta is pressed across a bamboo mat which effectively presses a pattern into the pasta.

The edge of the piece is rolled up and brushed to the side of the pan.

These are left to dry on a soft cotton cloth for several days until the moisture evaporates. I keep them on a tray in my refrigerator.

After they are cooked they can be seasoned with olive oil, Parmesan or Pecorino cheese, finely shredded smoked salmon, or enjoyed with a favorite pasta sauce.

Handmade Tagliatelle and Tortelli

I stuffed the tortelli with homemade farmer's cheese seasoned with caraway, and cooked Swiss chard which is pressed and squeezed to remove all juice. Both pastas were served with my garden pasta sauce and a little Parmesan cheese.

First Halloween for Grandson Dan-Dan

Resources For Community Building

Friends from the Baha'i Black Men's Gathering enjoyed the fellowship in our home during our 17th Intensive Program of Growth on the weekend. Both days were filled with outreach projects in the Hilltop community here in Tacoma.

The thrust of our presentation is to offer services to families, in their homes and neighborhoods in an effort to build a more unified and secure environment for everyone, especially children and youth.

If the children can have a systematic level of care throughout their formative years it places them at a distinct advantage to grow in more positive and loving ways. Families awaken to the potential of their children, and hope and achievement are activated within the child, youth build social skills when involved in service projects, and everyone gets connected at a deeper, more spiritualized level. It is hoped that this approach will not only bring about a more committed level of care for families, but that it will ultimately build resources for neighborhoods and empower people who have been disheartened by poverty and crime.

Once a child lives with hope and understands their potential to create a better life, they must have a support group within the neighborhood, composed of families of all backgrounds and persuasions, of any religion, with the goal of working together to build a better community. That is the primary goal of our Intensive Phase of Growth. It is our job to provide the resources and get the programs in place.

George took 43 videos and 87 photographs over the weekend which are in our Flicker account. One can listen in on the consultation, enjoy the music (Jonathan performs an African chant), and even imagine the aroma in my kitchen!

Meals were provided for the weekend, but I did manage to make an unusual bread pudding. I'd made a sweet-potato cookie for Feast which was an utter flop so I didn't serve it. Rather than throw all of the cookies away, I broke them up and added them to bread, milk, eggs, butter, vanilla, nutmeg and cinnamon, and placed some raisins and fresh peaches on top, and baked the whole thing.
The sweet-potato bread pudding turned out great! It just goes to show that disasters in the kitchen can become heavenly when transformed...and that was basically the whole point of our weekend. Spiritual transformation builds healthy communities.

I'll close with this photo of my friend Nancy. She brought me the sweet-potatoes - about 2 gallons of them pureed and sweetened. Nancy is Hawaiian, and always wore her beautiful black hair long, which is the custom. So when I saw her with her head shaved, I was shocked. This was so unlike her! When I asked her about it, she said one of her close friends was undergoing chemotherapy and she wanted to provide support. So she shaved her head to show her friend that she cared.

No Chicken Soup Here

George came home from work on Friday complaining of chest pain and tightness. He brought his lunch box in from the car and said he hadn't eaten all day. Said he had a fever.

I immediately thought of his asthma but knew this was probably something else, maybe pleurisy. I told him to drive to the Multicare Emergency Clinic over on 26th and Pearl, about 4 or 5 miles away. I wanted to make sure it was not swine flu or something.

While I cleaned up my kitchen - I was in the middle of canning green beans - I waited for him to return. But no phone call. It wasn't until almost 9:00 that he called, using a fireman's emergency phone. They loaded him up into an ambulance, and as he mentioned that the initial assessment was pleurisy, I said, "Well, I figured that."

I wasn't too worried about him, but he had to leave my car in the parking lot at the clinic, and that concerned me, so I told him I'd walk over there in the morning and pick it up. End of conversation, end of worry over George.

I went to bed, thinking I'd pick him up at Tacoma General the next day. Locked the doors, left the light burning in the den...and darn it, it is spooky sleeping all alone in a quiet house! All of a sudden I was all ears, alert to every sound in the neighborhood, the guys partying across the street, the cats standing-off and hissing in the back yard, cars driving by sending vibrations through the house. I turned up the sound machine to the sound of rain, and pulled a comforter around my ears.

Sometime after midnight I heard the bedroom door open, and George said, "It's just ME". He (didn't want to get shot) didn't want to frighten me. He crawled into bed, mentioning that he walked home in the dark....uphill....through Hilltop, about three miles. He said it was tough at first (well, yes, I guess you could expect that with pleurisy!) and he thought about flagging a taxi that drove by. But, the neighborhood walk was done so quickly, he just kept going.

He slept late the following morning, and I got busy in the kitchen. I cut up a butternut squash and made soup.

That done, I made a sauce for my home-made ravioli parmesan.
These ravioli are made the day before and left to rest overnight.
They are stuffed with home-made farmer's cheese and Swiss chard.

On Sunday I got out my tagine, made a broth for pot-roast, and let the beef simmer all afternoon. I made biscuits to sop up the sauce. He really liked this meal, saying that the aroma was 'killing him' all afternoon. Finally about 4:00 I served him a bowl before I headed over to pick vegetables in my garden.

I've been canning cabbage slaw, both green and red, and also a bean-cauliflower-carrot salad.

A friend brought over about a gallon of sweet-potato puree, so I froze it in quart size packets, ready for cookies or a pie. This is a good time of the year for pumpkin cookies. I made some of those for a coffee break, using the sweet-potato puree, and George packed some of them in his lunch today.

He is doing fine, and following doctor's orders. He's got his appetite back and is enjoying all the left-overs.

Drowning In Beans

Walter, Markel and Peggy came over last night for our Devotional, and while the guys discussed religion out in the living room, Peggy stood by my sink and stove while I chopped Romano beans and canned them. I told her I was drowning in beans.

The last two quart jars I simmered until just barely cooked, then I sealed them and didn't process them, as I want to use them within a few weeks for a marinated salad. They sealed with a loud pop while she and I visited in the den.

I'd spent the day cooking - made some cream cheese to spread on toast, roasted a large tray of vegetables to put on top; made cornbread, served with honey; then made a big pot of squash soup.

I don't know why I call it that, as it had turnips, chard, eggplant, beans, potatoes, garbanzos, carrots and celery, onions and garlic. However, I'd initially intended just squash soup, using a large butternut I had on hand.

I chopped these chard stems and threw them into the pot, too. I'm going to use the chard leaves for the innards of a Sardinian ravioli called 'Ravioli con Verdura' which is stuffed with ricotta and greens. I'll use my home-made cheese and the chard.

This was one of the paintings that Walter brought for the Devotional. I had to scrunch down to look at the detail. He'd laced some of the lines with gold paint, and the effect (with all of the outrageous light in the room that George needs to make a photograph) was nice. I recall adding gel sparkle to a few of my food photos in my cookbook, to enhance the sparkle on the edge of a crepe. Artists try to bring things alive, and that sure worked.

Feasting Like There Is No Tomorrow

We heard that some colder weather is headed this way, so we picked more of the produce from my garden. What is shown here will be used for squash soup, root soup, salsa and roasted vegetables. Some of it will be prepared and frozen, to be enjoyed later.

I've been reading through some of my cookbooks for recipes, especially those from the Mediterranean: Lots of fresh vegetables, fruit, whole grains, seeds and nuts, fish, meat as flavoring, and olive oil. Add to this a little home-made farmer's cheese and yogurt, and you pretty much have our diet. Wonderful God-given abundance and flavors that are unforgettable.

However, the greatest inspiration for 'feasting like there is no tomorrow' is Anthony Bourdain's "No Reservations".He celebrates and explores ethnic food and the culture that shapes it. His energy and joy are contageous, and have had a tremendous impact on my cooking.

This past year Bourdain visited Sardinia, the homeland of his wife, Ottavia Busia. They sat outside in a patio overlooking the Mediterranean, browsed a local food market, and had a magnificent meal in the home of a family friend.

What wonderful platters of food: the hand-made pasta called Malloreddus served with wild boar; the salt-cured fish roe called Bottarga sprinkled over spaghetti; and all varieties of fish, shellfish, and lobster. As the platter of Malloreddus was served, and the Bottarga, Bourdain said, "If you could smell this you'd be happily biting and snapping your way through your TV screen."

Bottarga, the egg roe from silver mullet, is cured in salt then waxed until it hardens. It is sliced and fried in olive oil with garlic. Part of the Bottarga is shaved into a powder, which is sprinkled onto the oiled pasta. No sauce is used, as the fishy aroma and flavor of the Bottarga is all that is necessary.

I couldn't find fish roe locally, of course, but it can be ordered online. I used a substitution: Smoked Salmon, on sale at Tacoma Boys. I shaved it thin and then put it through my food grinder so that the end result was a light powder. To brown it and crisp it up like bacon I oven-roasted the shaved powder until it was a light brown.

Then it was sprinkled on top of cooked, oiled (Olive Oil) bucatini #6.

I roasted tiny eggplants, carrots and onions from my garden, and mixed them into the pasta. Simple, easy, so good.

I also roasted some of my butternut squash, and added eggplant alongside, dotted with walnuts. This was a bedtime snack.

I saw my physican this week for my annual check-up. He always hands out a print-out, of suggestions and tips. He recommended that I read "The China Study" by Dr. T. Colin Campbell. A nutritionist and research scientist, Dr.Campbell concludes that people who ate the most plant-based foods are the healthiest and tend to avoid chronic disease, and people who ate the most animal based foods got the most chronic disease. He cautions: Change your diet and dramatically reduce the risk of cancer, diabetes, heart disease and obesity.

This has got me wondering where Bourdain, crazy in love with pork, (and years of drug usage), has done so well - he looks so energized, happy and healthy. I guess he says it the way it truly is: "I've had three or four full lives already most of which I was surprised to find I survived! This is like bonus round undeserved probably, but like some insane pinball machine, life keeps kickin' out extra points, regardless of how I played it."

Huckleberries

We gathered a little over a gallon of good berries, once cleaned and sorted. I'll use these primarily for huckleberry salad dressing. Blend olive oil, balsamic vinegar, garlic, salt and a pinch of sugar or blue agave syrup. The sweet/tart contrast on raw late-season greens is refreshing (if you like strong flavors). Great on shredded kale salad - something I eat all winter if my garden survives the frost.

Nice on waffles and pancakes, too...

Tomato Salsa

I'm still canning salsa, and hope to finish about 6 quarts. These are packed raw and processed only 10 minutes so the salsa stays crisp. I store them in the refrigerator as a precaution.

Spring Birthdays ~ Autumn Birthdays

About a decade ago I decided to celebrate birthdays only twice a year, with spring birthdays in May and autumn birthdays in September. There are so many, I cannot remember all of them most of the time: Around 7 in the spring, and at least 3 in autumn. I never remember them, even forgetting my own...and if I forget my own I also forget my twin sister's birthday. So, family reunions to celebrate everyone's birthday at one time is the way I handle it.

Rue is pictured here with his little son Daniel. They look so much alike! Annie went through some of our old photo albums to see how Rue looked when he was Daniel's age...those babies could have been twins.

Matt and Ruhiyyih drove over (to finish wedding planning at the church), and Annie's parents came, Taraz and Rahmat, Daisy.

We had a pot-luck; I made a big kettle of vegetable soup and a tomato-red onion salad...everything from the garden: Turnips, carrots, tomatoes, red and walla walla onions, scallions, potatoes, celery, kale, chard, brussel sprout leaves, parsley, oregano, yellow zucchini and a green bean or two.

Annie made a huckleberry pie from huckleberries on her parent's property. When we talked, she said that the berries were in abundance, so George and I went berry-picking early Sunday morning to get a year's supply - about a gallon of sorted berries. They are used primarily for salad dressing (with olive oil, balsamic vinegar, salt and garlic), and I keep them frozen until it is time to use them. They have a bitter-sweet essence which partners up wonderfully with thin-sliced kale and other autumn greens, red onions and tomatoes.

This is a beet salad that I made yesterday - beets, red onions, walnuts,sweet orange segments, with a dressing of balsamic, olive oil, and salt. I made a big container, for George's salads throughout the week. It keeps well.

I've pickled some of our green beans, to add to kidney beans and garbanzos for 3 bean salad. George likes that kind, occasionally. I also canned regular romano beans, for casseroles.

This apple pie was actually prepared for one of our Devotional Meetings one afternoon, but Taraz saw it and begged for a slice.

At first I wanted to say 'no', it is for a meeting. Then I looked at his face. I knew his mouth was set for pie...and I cut him a small slice, just some little taste-thrill. Maybe I'd still have enough for our gathering.

Well, that was one big mistake. He shoveled that pie into his mouth so fast, like he was starving. Then, he sat there, like he was dumbfounded or something and looked at me.

"Mom. Could I have just one more piece?"

I looked at what was left after I cut him a second slice, and decided I'd join him. What the heck, lets have pie! I ate a small sliver.

Darn, if that wasn't SO GOOD! All warm out of the oven, and sticky apple-syrup bubbling over onto the crust. Now I know why he asked for more! I cut myself a second slice and looked at Taraz while we ate that pie together. We were just dying in bliss and gratitude.

But now almost HALF a PIE was gone, and I had nothing to serve at our gathering that night. I figured "well, maybe only Walter will show up, and he could have pie". It is amazing how one will legitimize pigging out when sugar is involved.

Ten guests arrived. Three of them diabetic, another on dialysis, one just suffered a heart attack, another has suffered a stroke...I served only weak decaffenated green tea, without sugar, and no pie.

Of Little Angels and Unicorns

I took 5 photos of this little girl at the family reunion up in Canada. She wouldn't smile...until a unicorn came to play.

Family Reunion in British Columbia

We've returned from 5 days in British Columbia, where we attended a family reunion. George's brother Dick stayed with us for a few days before we headed up to Vancouver.

George has posted over 300 photos of the trip in our Flickr account, and about 25 videos.

I'll just list the highlights here:
Our day at the Museum of Anthropology in Vancouver, featuring native Haida totems.
The paddle-boat cruise, with lunch, on the Frasier River.
Watching the mountain- bikers at Whistler, where the 2010 winter Olympics will be held.
A local fish hatchery, with the salmon run.
Hiking up to a waterfall, and of course, all the great food of the Pacific Northwest.

At the Museum I bought "Campfire Cuisine ` gourmet recipes for the great outdoors" by Robin Donovan...this book features many of the types of meals we prefer when we camp! It even has the same spices, oils, and...polenta! There are directions for cooking, whether over a grill or fire, and how to pack the coolers for optimum cooling.

I took along several books to read in the car, since I can't visually 'track' moving images anymore: "Breadline USA - the hidden scandal of American hunger and how to fix it" by Sasha Abramsky; and "Wild ~ stories of survival from the world's most dangerous places" by Clint Willis, editor. It features the writing of a variety of authors, including Barry Lopez, Wilfred Thesiger, Bill Bryson, Jack London, etc.

When we got home George told me that he had to cancel the repairs to his old Dodge Caravan, necessary emission repairs. It would have been about $3,000 to upgrade that old 1993 motor (once rebuilt). Just not worth it, for a car that isn't even worth $300.

My car is a 96 Pontiac, with bungee cords holding the trunk down and clear plastic packing tape holding the glove compartment door shut. George taped it closed, making an enormous mistake - he taped the airbag compartment too! I could just see the whole unit, airbag and glove compartment, flying into someone's face if it all went off. So, he found a ragged tool to cut the airbag compartment loose...and, bygolly, now my car looks just like something George would drive.

I left the van in the parking lot at Precision Automotive, with all of the motor parts in boxes in the back seat. What a horrible last image, of a van that we loved so much! It was towed away today by Paralyzed Veterans of America, Northwest Chapter. I told them, "You can't miss it - it has about 25 wildlife stickers on it." That van spent many a night under the stars in the deserts of eastern Washington.

When I cleaned out the drawer under the passenger seat I found an old espresso cup, one of Taraz's cereal bowls (he'd been looking for it), and plum pits. A most revolting reminder that 'out of sight, out of mind'...

Speaking of driving, I bumped into a car as I was pulling out of the parking lot over at the Franklin Park Community Gardens. The owner, Lily, a pediatrition here in town, had parked her old garden van perpendicular to mine. I figured if I inched around I could wiesel my car out. I closed one eye and tried to figure it out. It is moments like this where double vision is just horrible - I have no depth perception. So I drove very slow.

I heard a thud and a scrape, and darn if I didn't bump into her. Well, I was just devastated! I ran back into the garden where Lily was working and told her I'd rammed into her car. She said, "Oh don't worry about it, Bonita. That is just an old van I use for gardening."

But, I needed to show her the big 4 inch dent along a wheel rim, so we walked out to the parking lot. We walked over to her van, and I pointed to a huge dent along the wheel rim. Lily laughed and gave me a hug. "Bonita! That dent has been there for four years. YOU didn't do THAT!" She laughed, and indicated that no damage had been done.

Well, I've forfeited my driving for awhile. I've started a walking route, to the garden, the grocery store, the dentist and doctor. By combining errands, I can get my cauliflower at Fred Meyers and walk up 19th street to my garden to pick kale and onions. Not bad, about an hour's excursion, a perfect daily walk with some of it on a steep hill... just what I'd been looking for.

I'm still canning produce, about 15 more jars of spaghetti sauce, green beans and pickled beets. I'll be making a zucchini cake today and some Portuguese kale soup.